Military caregivers often come across as tough and able to handle anything, but we do have a breaking point. We need help sometimes, just like anyone else.
How has your life changed since you became a caregiver? What sacrifices have you had to make?
Becoming a full-time caregiver to my husband meant the end of my business. It meant the end of one career and the beginning of a new one. I do not believe that I have made any sacrifices, only transitioned into a different way of life.
Can you describe a milestone or a moment that made you feel empowered or inspired as a caregiver?
When my husband looked at me and thanked me for fighting for him when he could not fight himself.
What do you wish people knew about military caregivers?
Military caregivers are just like other caregivers, we’re just more traveled. Our community of family, friends, and peers are not always right there in our area. We are diverse, strong, and most of all adaptable to any challenge that comes our way
Resources That Helped Me
My Story
Vicki has been married to her husband, Robert, for over 30 years, and nothing could have prepared her for the challenges of becoming his full-time caregiver. After serving 28 years in the Army, her husband was medically retired from injuries suffered in Iraq and Afghanistan. Robert suffers from a traumatic brain injury (TBI) and physical wounds that make daily life unpredictable and exhausting at times. They are currently working to make their home safer for him to ambulate around, and to allow for greater independence. This has been an ongoing process, since his retirement in November 2010.
In her role as a Dole Caregiver Fellow, Vicki would like to help other caregivers find resources to make their caregiving journey less stressful. Finding resources to fill needs is what she found lacking in general, and she would love to pass along her knowledge and experience to help others. Vicki has a passion for research and the patience to do it.
