Elizabeth Dole Foundation
Hidden Heroes
Caregiver Journey Map Campaign for Inclusive Care

Rebecca Porges

I draw inspiration from the incredible people who are military caregivers. Each is a living national treasure.

What are some of your current challenges?

Both my husband and I run into problems when the environment changes or when something happens to me. I suffer when my friends move away, and my suffering affects my husband. When we lost our child, I had a very difficult time but my husband was so good to me. He made sure that I ate and he really kept me going.

How has being a military caregiver changed you?

I have become more resilient, less naive, and more compassionate. My husband has grown in my estimation and I absolutely adore him for everything he does for me.

What advice do you wish you had when you first became a caregiver?

I would encourage all new caregivers to seek out caregiver mentors. Find someone else who can be a guide so that you can prevent issues before they happen. It is important to also allow your wounded warrior an opportunity to reinvent himself or herself.

My Story

Rebecca cares for her husband who was medevaced from Afghanistan in 2012. She had to quit her job and move to manage his care. He suffers from a traumatic brain injury (TBI), post traumatic stress disorder (PTSD), hearing loss, and asthma.

As a Dole Fellow, Rebecca is honored to be able to communicate about the struggles caregivers face.